Writen by Paris Adele Silva
“It only takes a person 12seconds to look at your whole image once you come into a room.” is one of the best tips I got during my Personality Development class a few years back. Once someone walks in a room, it will only take you 12 seconds to “check him/her out”.
First you see their face, “She has a nice smile, I feel comfortable around her”, “Does his hairstyle make him look older than he really is?”, “I think she’s wearing too much makeup?”. Then your eyes go down and see the clothes their wearing. “That is a gorgeous dress!”, “He is somewhat overdressed”, “His pants are too tight”, “Those shoes don’t look good with her dress”, “Why is she dressed like that? She does not look like the manager in this hotel.” Then you watch their expressions and body language, “He walks like he’s always in a rush”, “She’s slouching”, “She’s dragging her feet when she walks”, “I think he’s in a bad mood, he’s frowning a lot”. All that can happen in just 12 seconds, and that’s what I always keep in mind when I’m meeting people for the first time. Especially when I want to impress someone. Like a panel of interviewers for a job I really really want to get, for example. Which brings us to the day I decided to apply for an airline as a Cabin Crew.
It was a very hot day in June 2015. We were all lined up outside PNB Macapagal in our business formal attire, us ladies in heels and in full makeup, the gentlemen in those uncomfortable leather shoes and itchy thick suits, all under the scorching summer sun! Obviously I was very sweaty and worried about how I would look like once the panelist/ interviewers see me after 6 hours of lining up under the sun with the other hopefuls. Yes I knew that the panelists will focus more on my personality and credentials rather than the way I look. However, I also knew that I needed to impress them right away. As soon as I enter the room and open my mouth to speak, I need them to like me. Thankfully, I remembered the 12 second rule and all the things I learned from my Personality Development workshops. These gave me the confidence I needed that day. The same confidence that got me this job that I currently love!
Truth be told, I was never the straight-A student in class, and I did not graduate with honors in my university. Really! But I am proud to say that in all the job interviews I went to after college, I was always presented with a job offer right away! Some even hired me during the interview. How is that possible? Well, as the popular saying goes, “She believed she could, so she did.” and I believed in myself!
Self-confidence is my weapon. If the panelists see that you are not sure about yourself, how will they believe you? Confident people inspire confidence in others, and gaining the confidence of others is how you will gain success. Sadly, we are not born with confidence and every time we fail in life, we somehow lose confidence in ourself. So where does confidence come from? For me, it comes from knowing my worth and being my best self every day, every single time.
“Being your best self” is having your best foot forward, always. It is simply presenting yourself with confidence in every encounter. Self-confidence does not happen by accident, it requires effort, even in the little things like dressing up. You will feel more prepared for an interview if you dress appropriately for the interview, right? When I go to interviews, I dress for the job I want to get. You should look the part you are applying for. This gives the interviewers a chance to see how you will look like in that uniform. How will you be hired as a Flight Attendant if you don’t look like one? Being appropriately dressed for an interview makes you feel good about yourself, and that will give you self-confidence. Also, practice good verbal and non-verbal communication. Be aware of your body language and posture, for it may be misinterpreted by others. Slouching can indicate “laziness” or would make you look like you’re not interested. And crossing your arms might make you look like you don’t want to talk and that you’re unapproachable. On the other hand, good posture shows confidence and would definitely impress your interviewer. Speak up and deliver your message with confidence and sincerity. I understand that many are afraid of public speaking and that’s totally normal. Don’t worry because with practice you will overcome that fear. Just remember, don’t ramble and don’t forget to breathe in between sentences, this will help you to relax. Maintain eye contact, and don’t be afraid to make hand gestures so you won’t look stiff. Know what you are talking about. Please come prepared and think before you speak. There is nothing more disappointing than listening to someone who does not know what he/she is talking about. Lastly, be truthful and sincere in everything you say. Lying is bad, not to mention dangerous! Don’t tell them that you speak Japanese, Korean, or French if you don’t. You don’t have to oversell yourself or try too hard. These interviewers appreciate sincerity and humility.
I know 12 seconds is not enough for you to introduce yourself fully and for people to know your strengths and skills. But 12 seconds is more than enough time to make a good impression and make people remember you. So on your next interview, be prepared and bring lots of confidence. You can never go wrong with wisdom, wit, and confidence!
If you want to get tips and learn more on how to become a cabin crew, I will be giving a workshop on May 19, Saturday, from 9pm all the way to 5pm, at Lipa, Batangas. So if you are in the area, you may want to attend as this may really help you turn your cabin crew dream into a reality. Please see details below. You may also email us at email@example.com if you are interested to attend of if you would need more information.
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